Angie is the mom of two adorable kiddos (she had two under two!). One boy and one girl. She advises that no matter what season you are in with your children or marriage that you should always work as a team and we could not agree more!
She has a great appreciation of her friends and family and stresses the importance of taking help.
We want to recognize all the mothers we possibly can and Angie is another great addition to our Mom of Fame!
Tell us about yourself and family!
I am 34 years old( which I can literally never remember … like ever. I had to do the math AGAIN this time!).
I live in South Lyon with my husband Jr, puppy Miggy, and two kids, Grayson Martin (19 months old) & Piper Josephine (two months.) We had two miscarriages before God finally blessed us with our rainbow baby and we haven’t looked back since.
19 months later we’re a family of 4 navigating this crazy life together!
What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?
I was given a lot of good advice and have continued to get it every day!
One piece of advice I would pass on would be to accept help! I’ve never been good at asking for help and always want to do everything on my own. When people offer help, they want to help! Take it because it won’t always be there.
I’m not sure if someone told me this, but another piece of advice I would pass along would be that no matter what phase the kids (or your marriage when having kids) is going through, it will pass, you just need to work as a team!
First its the 4-5 wake ups with the newborn and learning together how to nurse. Then came sleep training which was hard, but we got through it! Next up was the first (of many) sleep regressions *which felt impossible at the time*. But, they don’t last for ever!
Followed up with teething and temper tantrums (these were a little bit of a longer phase) but we got through them just in time for another sleep regression.
I’ve learned to just take a deep breath, smile, and think of how blessed we are that THESE are the big problems in our life, and as long as we work together, we’re going to get through them!
How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?
Shockingly, its not much different at all.
I was one of the last of my friends to have a baby and I had pretty amazing role models to fill me in before I became a mommy. The main thing that is different would just be how little time I have for myself. I knew I would have less time, but a lot of days it feels like I have none! Some days it is hard because all I want to do is get a work out in, or get my nails done but at the end of the day, I know this is just a phase and soon I’ll find more time for myself.
For the time being, I’m going to enjoy these kiddos while they are young!
What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?
Balance | Patience | Rules/Boundaries
It has taken some time, but I’ve learned that I can’t do everything, so I need balance- and I have really grown in this area.
I have also been sure to try and have more patience, specifically with my son and husband. I find myself going a million miles a minute and doing 3-4 things at a time, then being short with my family. I’ve tried really hard to not do that and balance things out by realizing the order of importance.
Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.
I get overwhelmed when I try to do EVERYTHING.
I am used to working, coaching, keeping the house clean, working out, playing volleyball, maintaining friendships and working on my marriage… but when you add two babies in the mix, something has to give.
The babies obviously come first, and that means the other areas have all been slacking at some point or another. It’s overwhelming to me that I’m not able to keep up on everything but I have some pretty amazing friends that ground me and remind me to soak in these moments with the kids because I’m going to blink and its all going to be gone!
Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?
I know it may seem cliche but I really don’t think I have lost anything (besides TIME!). From a young age I knew I wanted to have a family and be a mother.
I can say that I have gained a new level of respect for all mothers out there. I’ve heard people say it’s one of the hardest jobs in the world and I’d have to agree. However, I have gained strength that I didn’t know I was lacking, and patience that I need on a daily basis.
I have also gained an even grater sense of time management and have learned to cut myself a little slack. If I don’t get that work out in, or the laundry done, or dishwasher unloaded it will always be there tomorrow.
What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?
I want them to learn to be strong, kind, independent, and caring people.
I want them to learn not to give up when things get tough, and that it’s OK to try something new and fail, but to try again.
What was more difficult for you? Going from no kids to one kid or one kid to two kids? Why? What were some of the challenges with both?
I think they are difficult for different reasons.
The hardest thing for me is feeling like I’m not being a good mother if I don’t get EVERYTHING done.
When I had Grayson it took me a while to get to a place where I felt like I had it all “under control” and was juggling everything well. Then I had Piper and TWO under TWO took a lot more attention!
I’ve been very blessed with two “easy babies” and an amazing husband, as well as a tribe of not only family, but friends!