Donna is another mom who doesn’t know what “me time” is. With 2 under 2.5, a full-time job that includes nights and weekends, and an online business she keeps herself very busy. We were lucky that she took a little time out of her full schedule to answer our questions.
She talks about the importance of daycare centers, letting kids be kids, and how she was scared of motherhood. Please help us welcome her into the Mom of Fame and leave her some love in the comments so that she can realize that she definitely has many strengths!
Please tell us a little about yourself and your family.
The Mortellaro household is a busy one. With a very hectic farmer/rancher head of the family plus 2 oh-so-loved toddlers aged under 2 and a half, this community hospital laboratory scientist (yours truly) who works more than the usual 40 hours a week (We are talking about calls at night and on the weekends as well!) can barely handle all. Oh how I thank God for daycare centers! I couldn’t even imagine how life would be if they didn’t exist. My online business wouldn’t even be possible without them. Seriously!
On that note, I proudly introduce my website called The Upward Blip. It is an online baby store committed to creating high quality baby bandana bibs of colorful variants. It also offers a blog section where parents, especially mothers, can find hacks about self-care, baby, family lifestyle, and so much more.
What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?
I found this adage by Rebecca Eanes on twitter the other day and it just struck me to the core. It says, “So often, children are punished for being human. They are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes. Yet, we adults have them all the time. None of us are perfect. We must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves”. I don’t need to expound that. It is too powerful of a quote for me to even try. Therefore, I will just leave this here and suggest that all mothers bear this in mind. Everything will be better when you put it to heart.
How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?
I have always been scared to be a mother. I envisioned (and I still do) motherhood as a herculean task. Mothers are super people in my eyes! So when I knew I was going to become one, I was so nervous. I was even questioning my ability to be one at some point. Then I thought if I wasn’t scared at all, I wouldn’t be half the mother than I am now. Motherhood is a beautiful thing. I will definitely do it again.
What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?
I am my own worst critic. That being said, I couldn’t even think of my strong points. All I know is I am constantly striving to better myself for my kids’ sake.
Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.
The struggle is real! There’s no joking around on that one. It may be overwhelming now and again (especially when I was pregnant with my second born as my first born was only 10 months that time), but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?
My old self is gone, but I have gained a new one. I am happy and at ease of what I am becoming because of my children.
What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?
Embrace your individuality. You don’t have to fit in. You just need to learn that everyone is different. You may not agree with everything other people believe in, but always respect others. One other thing. Resilience. If you don’t have it, the world will eat you alive!