Here at Momfaming we try and capture moms at all stages. We’ve been trying to get moms with multiples, moms with one, moms that have older kids and moms that have younger. We were excited to sit down with someone that was expecting to get her take on pregnancy and becoming a mom.
After the baby is born we plan on sitting down with her again. Check back in August (or September) to see!
We wish her the best of luck in the upcoming delivery of her baby girl!
What is the best advice you’ve been given about pregnancy or motherhood?
I mean most often I think is the generic advice; plan for stuff and know that your plan will never actually work out.
The best advice is about daycare. I didn’t realize how quickly they book up. So, I made sure [to get a spot] knowing that I have to go back to work in three months after. There are huge waits and I wanted to get one that I could put research into. And I put down a deposit knowing that I could always change my mind. But knowing the number of infants they actually let in is so low I wanted to get on the list.
I feel like I’ve done pretty good not getting unsolicited advice. People haven’t really been annoying me with unsolicited advice. It’s mostly if I ask questions; “did you really use this?”, “do we really need that?” And that’s helpful.
How is pregnancy different than you thought it would be?
I mean I think I had a pretty realistic vision of what it was. I don’t think anything prepares you for your body betraying you everyday. I just feel like I wake up everyday and I think, “what are we going to do now, guys?” My husband thinks it’s funny when I try to get out of bed and say, “nobody help me!”
I think it’s to my expectation, though. I have nothing to compare it to so it just kind of is what it is. It’s definitely not worse or better than I thought. I guess I’m just kind of neutral towards it. I’m getting to the point where I’m getting more tired of it and everything feels like a chore. If you would have talked to me three weeks ago, I would have been like, “I’m crusin”. But the last couple of weeks I have just felt more like “oh my God, she’s really growing”.
What do you think your biggest strength will be as a mom?
I’m hoping its my planning and detail orientation. I like to pre-plan and I know my plan’s not going to work. But maybe if 10 percent of my planning works out I’ll be set up okay. Like, in getting the daycare and my friend to come stay with me. Just planning [my husband’s] schedule for him. I’m hoping my strength is somewhat trying to be organized.
Has anything overwhelmed you during pregnancy?
The lack of self-independence has stressed me out. I want to do all of this stuff and I physically just can’t. [My husband] will be like, “just ask me to do it.” But that’s annoying and I feel lazy sitting on the couch and directing him around. And it’s a hard thing to start doing when you’re not used to it. And I have this vision in my head that my house has to be this perfectly clean, set up situation. But it’s impossible. Everyone fear mongers you to think you’re life is over and I’m like, “I’m not going to have time to organize my drawers”. But it’s like, at some point, I’m going to feel a little better, she’s going to take a nap, I have [my husband], and I can organize my drawers!
What are you most excited about?
Obviously to see and meet the baby. It’s a lot of prep and build-up for her to come.
Selfishly, I’m just excited to have my body back a little bit. For it to be more mine rather than a shared resource for everybody; between doctors, family, her. I look forward to the sensation of control of at least my body.
What are you most scared about?
I dont know. I’m not terrified, yet, of giving birth. I think you just get so uncomfortable to some degree where you’re just like, “get it out of me”. But I think that first day home is what I’m most anxious about. Because I’ll ask [my husband], “So what do we do? She comes home, we get home from the hospital, there’s all of this anticipation, and then what? Do we just sit there and stare at her?” So I guess I’m more afriad for the first couple of days of just figuring it out. Well, I wouldn’t say afraid. I would say just nervous or anxious. It’s more of the unknown.