Michelle is a new and fresh mom. Her little guy is just five months old. He may be young, but he has traveled all over the place! They’ve been to Chicago, Toronto and GERMANY. This kid has been all over the place and his mom seems to handle it all with ease.
In the next couple of months they are taking the biggest journey of all and traveling to Germany to live there for a year. To some this may seem impossible, but Michelle is handling it with excitement and grace (and maybe a little nervousness). We cannot wait to hear all about the differences in motherhood from the states to Germany.
We wish her all the best in her upcoming journey to Germany.
Welcome to the mom of fame, Michelle! You deserve it!
What is the best piece of advice you were given about motherhood? Did you take it? Would you give that piece of advice to someone else?
My advice was probably more given in a warning. It was “your life will change”. And I think in the beginning I took it as a warning. Then once I had him, everything changes, but I think it changes for the better. I love the changes. So I’m going to take it positively.
I would [give that advice to someone else] but not say it in that tone. Not say, “your life is going to suck” but more your life is going to change for the better.
How is motherhood different than you imagined it would be?
I think I thought it was going to be worse than it actually is. I thought it was just going to be problem after problem after problem. Because of the “warnings” I was getting. But it’s been turning out to be good. He’s a great baby. We’ve had a good time. I think I thought it was just going to be crappy.
What are your three strengths when it comes to motherhood?
I am way more patient than I’ve ever been in my life. I was never patient before. But I have the patience of a Saint now because of him. My husband has none which is kind of funny. We switched.
I think I’m more loving than I used to be. Like, I was loving, but I’ve never been like, “oh my God, I love you, I love you, I love you!” And I do that to him. All day. Every day.
I was always independent before, but that is a strength that has helped now. I don’t call on my mom, I don’t call on my sisters everyday. Like, “oh he did this, I don’t know what to do!” That has definitely helped a lot. It has improved more.
Describe a time where you were completely overwhelmed as a mother.
Everyday. I have to pick one!? [Laughs]. I would probably say when we brought him home. I was recovering from a C-section. I don’t really remember all of the hospital time that we had since I was on so much medication. So I feel like I didn’t really bond with him in the hospital. When we got home, I was just like, “we have a baby, now what do we do!?” [My husband] actually really kinda took the lead on that one. I was like, “I don’t know anything about this child; I don’t know what to do; I don’t know what to do for him” and he definitely helped with that. Now I’m better, but in the beginning I didn’t know what I was doing.
I was still on medication for a lot. For a C-section they give you a lot of medication. I was on it for a good week and a half after we got home. I couldn’t do anything for two weeks; I could barely pick him up. My husband just tried everything he could think of to help him. He didn’t sleep very well in the beginning. He hated his bassinet. [My husband] tried everything. And it worked out but [my husband] really took the lead on that. That was really overwhleming. And then when he left I was like, “no, don’t leave me!” But that was probably my most memorable one. I have a lot [laughs].
Is there anything you feel that you have lost about yourself since becoming a mother? What have you gained?
I feel like I’ve probably lost everything. But I also have a husband who is not really home. So I’ve pretty much lost everything that I had before. I’ve lost independence. The ability to do anything, really.
In saying that, I think I’ve gained everything as well. He’s my world now. I wouldn’t change it for anything.
What do you want your child(ren) to learn from you?
I would probably want him to learn my independence. From the things that I’ve had to go through; with being married to someone who’s not home all the time, moving to Ohio by myself. Then this new trip to Germany, there will be a lot that he will see. Especially, that you have to be independent to really function. So I would like him to learn that from me. Because that will definitely pave the way for the rest of his life.
How are you feeling about the move to Germany for a year with the baby?
I am very apprehensive. I’m a nervous wreck. I think I have a panic attack every night. [Laughs]. But…I mean there’s not much I can do about it if I want my husband to be home. So it’s kind of a two-for-one. We have to do it to move on with our lives. It’s really just one day at a time. I am so busy thinking about everything that we have to do that I’m not even prepared for the long term effects that it’s going to have on me and my child.
I’m probably not [preparing]. I think I’ve put it in the back of my head and am just trying to get the things that we have to bring first. I’m probably going to be a wreck when I get there. But I think moving to Ohio prepared me, because I was also by myself and away. Going there I’ll have [my husband]. We’ll have people there. When I went to Ohio I had no one. I was really lonely. So I won’t be as lonely.